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Things That Make Me Judgey

I am have been trying, of late, to put aside some of my expectations and attitudes about other people and how they should or should not be living. A lot of this is based on trying to heal my marriage, but it has expanded to include healing me, and finding the part of me that I love- spending time with my friends, putting out a productive, positive energy, and being happy. Emphasis on the latter.

All of that crap sounds great, of course, and I really am working on it. Really. But Rome wasn't built in a day, and there are still a few things that humans do that make me lose my Goddamn mind.

1. Not putting seat belts on your child- oh, no. No, no, no. I will not only judge the ever-loving shit out of you if I see this, but I will also call the cops.

2. Being noisy when it's too late or you have been noisy too long? Come on. Things like dogs and babies that don't have a volume button? Not a problem. I can't get upset about an upset animal or a crying child no matter how loud or long. Some things just can't be helped. Even the occasional party or loud music? If it's not a regular thing it's not a problem. Your TV pounding through my floor every fucking night? I think you're an asshole.

3. Failing to yield to a school bus that is boarding/letting off children, particularly if the lights are flashing and the STOP sign is out and engaged.  You are not only a shitty, inattentive driver, but you are also a horrible person. This one, in particular, gives me instant rage. I have been know to yell at drivers who pass the bus while PJ is boarding. They never make eye contact with the braless, crazy-haired woman, still in her jammies, yelling like a nutcase. Go figure.

4. Try not to be a Debbie Downer. There are people who have something negative to say as a response to anything. Anything. The sun is shining outside your window and yes, you can get ALL THE CANCER from sunshine. But it's okay to enjoy it a little, too. Perk up there, chipmunk.

5. Sadness one-upers also drive me nuts. This is someone who will counter one sad tale with a slightly sadder tale of their own. It's not a competition. Hard is hard, for everyone. Yes, the person who is sad because Amazon didn't send a package on time (me today, as a matter of fact) is in a better place than the person who is sad because she has cancer. But that doesn't give someone a right to invalidate another's feelings. We're not in a race to see who has the suckiest life. Stop it.

I know that all of this makes me sound like a jerk, but in the spirit of honesty (and because writing this out made me laugh) I wanted to share a few things that bug me. What bugs you? Tell me what your pet peeves are and there might be a little something in it for you!!

Linking up with Leeann for some Monday Morning Gossip! Stop by, say hi, link up!!! DO IT!!!!! 


Hell yes to all especially #5.
Tiffers said…
If they don't have them already, they need dashboard cameras in school buses to catch people who do this. I think that, just like running a red light, you should be instantly ticketed if you're caught on camera passing a school bus with the lights flashing and stop sign out.
Wow, going through some of this myself! Like you said, trying to turn the negative into positive doesn't happen over night!! And to make myself & other's feel better I call it being opinionated. :) Danica
Funny! Especially funny because one of the things that drives me crazy is watching other moms judge each other and have it get in the way of supporting each other, yet I am so with you on the seatbelt thing! :-)

BTW I guess I didn't realize you could have your own domain name and still use blogger. I have a domain name (ok...maybe two domain names) but kind of just use one for a "splash page" because I've had my blogger blog for so many years and...well...something to look into at any rate. Probably next summer though. :-)
Ree said…
AAAA...been there done that with the bus thing. As for the daughter still sits in child's seat, and she will be 9!! I hate...HATE when I see parents let their kids have free roam of the car AND let them sit in the front seat!!! My old neighbor did that with all her (5) kids!!!
Another pet peeve I have?
Drivers NOT yield at crosswalks!! I work at a school with special needs students. A small little township roads runs right down throudh the middle of our campus. Everyday we have staff and students crossing over back and forth from building to building. the amount of people who DO NOT stop is horrible. Here's the kicker: just a bit ago a coworker and I were walking across with a teacher aand student in front of us. A township police car came right through WITHOUT stopping!! Yes, a cop...who should be setting an example!! Erks of all erks!!! Meh...

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