Friday, February 25, 2011

"Looks like we made it..."

It’s Week 8 of the Breastfeeding Blog Hop



Topic: Milestones

**There's a new format, please check out the details below**

Hosts:



This Week’s Guest Host:


Here are the guidelines for this blog hop:

1. Add yourself to the linky below. You may link up your blog homepage OR link directly to a post related to this week’s topic.

2. Grab the button (code can be found at Life With Levi) and display it on your blog.

3. Show your hosts some love – follow them on GFC. Leave a comment that you found them through the BFing Blog Hop so they can follow you back!

4. Check out some of the other blogs that linked up – the more blogs you follow (and comment on), the more followers you’ll gain.

5. The Guest Host will be chosen by Random.org from the participants in the previous week’s blog hop.

6. Linky will be open two days – Thursday, 02/24 & Friday, 02/25.



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This blog hop came along at just the right time in my life, because we have been thinking and talking a lot about breastfeeding in our house. Tomorrow, PJ will be 15 months old and is still nursing well past my original goal of 12 months. That goal of 12 months was pretty concrete- baring unforeseen complications, I was going to make it to a full year of nursing and I am so happy and proud that I did! My plan for after 12 months? Not so concrete.

For the first 365 days of PJ's life, there were a thousand little milestones along the path of breastfeeding. He latched on! MILESTONE! My milk came in! MILESTONE! Ha, I just squirted him in the eye for the first time! MILESTONE! It might sound silly to say, but in those days when my son was changing so quickly and he depended on me solely for food, getting through each day was it's own milestone!

Of course we eventually started PJ on solid food and I am not his only source of nutrition. Apples, meatballs, peas and cookies help to fill his little belly now, and breastfeeding has become something he turns to in order to sate his emotional needs, not his nutritional ones. We nurse when he wakes up, before and after naps, when he goes to bed, and any other time he needs to. I know that eventually, he will need or want to nurse less and less. Now that my original goal of 12 months has come and gone, I am not sure when the next milestone- the completion of our nursing routine- will happen.

So the next round of milestones might be a little more vague. My new goal is 18 months, and that is right around the corner!  After that, who knows? For now, it's very tiny little milestones in my breastfeeding adventure, and my heart loves every single one!

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

"Baby mine, don't you cry..."

Sometimes, being a mama is hard.
All you hope for is that nothing bad to ever happen to your child
and for happiness to be the only thing they ever know.
Like, 98.99999% of the time, if you're super-vigilant
the world is good and full of butterflies
(or maybe trucks, cookies, or Sesame Street. Whatever makes your kid super-squealy happyhappyhappy).
But even the most vigilant of mamas
lets one gets past her.
Even when everything turns out to be completely okay, a moment of pain for your child
equals a giant hole in the heart of a mama.
And in the heart of a drama queen like me?
That hole is the Grand Canyon.
And long, rambling, free-poetry-type blog posts are written.
(Well, it might be poetry if it wasn't so horrible)
My son is sleeping sweetly in his bed.
He laughed at his favorite show
while I spoke frantically to a doctor.
He only hurt for a second, and everything is fine.
At least I'm not the parents on the news right now who left their three kids alone in a house with no working toilets.
(Those poor babies...)
My son is fine, he's fine and wonderful.
It was a passing moment and my son is fine.
(just tell my mama heart)

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

"Even if I crash and burn ten times a day, I think I'm here to stay..."

Today was the last day of Pete's six days off, and we are really, really sad to see the time come to an end! We really lucked out this time- nice weather, family parties and other fun, and lots of time to be together! I even got to escape for a Girl's Night Out! The time has been wonderful, and now it seems like the next six-day-off stretch is sooooooo far away!

Thank goodness that PJ and I are lucky enough to have wonderful friends and family to keep us company when Pete is working or sleeping off a shift! Even though I find everything PJ does fairly fascinating, it still gets pretty lonely when I spend little to no time with my husband for a few days in a row!

At my niece Riley's birthday party this past Sunday, a very sweet, dear, wonderful family friend (the best friend of my sister-in-law Shelly!) asked me if I was bored being at home. And this wasn't just an idle, "Ugh, I don't know HOW you can stay at home!"-snotty type line of questioning. It was totally valid. Before I had PJ, I worked a 60+ hour week and had a weekend job on top of that! I was a totall work-a-holic. I never thought I would be content to be a SAHM. I liked working, I liked feeling valued and productive, and I really liked making my own money! I figured I would go back to work.

Then PJ was born and I knew right away that I wasn't going anywhere. On a practical level, there was no point. I would never make enough to cover childcare. I was there to stay anyway. But I converted from work-a-holic to stay-at-home-mom faster then you can say "poop"! Through the weeks of getting the hang of breastfeeding through diaper changes all the way through PJ's first year, I never missed working the way I thought I would. While we certainly miss the added income, we are slowly but surely making our way and figuring out the best way to run our little family.

For now, my job is to help raise my son full-time, and while I feel like I am still in the training period sometimes, it's the best job I ever had!

"It's gonna be a good day, just wait and see..."

So, I was all set to sit down and write a nice little post about what a nice day we had today, but then I glanced out of the window and saw snow! Friggin' snow!!!!! Our beautiful weather last week made me starving for spring, so this snow really just isn't doing it for me. Blergh. Still, I'll share out lovely day, since I'm giving like that. You're welcome.

The day started off with PJ having slept through the night, which is always a wonderful thing! He doesn't do that nearly enough- sadly, he sleeps like his mama, which is...well. It's crappy. So last night was a treat! We had a lazy, low-key morning to come down from the business of yesterday (we were out alllll day with no nap for PJ!) that was followed by naps all around for the afternoon! Naps are pretty much awesome and I don't take nearly enough. My husband, on the other hand, is the Benjamin Franklin of napping. He naps like he invented it!

After our long naps, we headed out to Chick-Fil-A to meet my friend Randi and her littles for dinner and playtime! Randi recently went back to work after almost two years as a stay-at-home-mom, so getting together has been tough. There was a time, when I was a nanny and she was home, that we saw each other every single day! We're not able to do that now, so it's great when we can squeeze in some time together! PJ loves her kids, especially her eldest daughter Natalie, and was having a blast!! Inside the play area, PJ climbed to the top for the first time! Even though he didn't really venture very far into the big tube-y-climb-y thing, it was fun to see him navigate it like a big boy!

Now, Pete is at his weekly fire department meeting and PJ is tucked into bed and the goddamn snow  is falling outside. Life is quiet, life is small, but life is good! It's the little things that count, and today, even though there was nothing groundbreaking or exciting about it, was a good one!

How was your day? Was it good? Tell me! :-)

Sunday, February 20, 2011

"Walk like a man..."

You will have to excuse me, since I have been Miss Lazy Blogger McBlogenstein the past few days. Pete is in the middle of a stretch of six days off, so we have been busy enjoying some family time!      

A few days ago, we had one single, perfect day of amazing, 70 degree weather! It was the kind that leaves you with Weather Blue Balls, since it comes in, romances you, makes you feel awesome, and then just when you think it will keep going.... nothing. Just the same cold, lonely winter and now you're all frustrated! 

Still, we got to go to the park and spend some time chasing PJ in the late-afternoon sun! It was packed with families enjoying the beautiful day, and there was such a happy vibe! Our big boy is walking like a champ now, and it was so much fun to watch him run all over the place! 


  

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

"I guess he’s an X-box and I’m more Atari..."

Hey, my last post was my 400th!!! Wow!!

Anyway, this is a brief "hello!" after a few very, very long nights with PJ! For two nights in a row, he didn't settle down to sleep until 10pm- two hours past his usual bedtime! He wasn't unhappy, just wired! The video from my last post? That was pretty much how bedtime was going! The first night, once he fell asleep, he stayed asleep, but last night, PJ woke up again at a little after midnight and didn't go back to sleep until 4am!

That's right. 4am. Urghhhhhhhhh.....

Again, he wasn't upset, he was just awake! He was smiling, laughing, and blowing raspberries on my arms! I could not, for the life of me, figure out what on earth got into him! At 2:30am we were snuggled in my bed, watching "That 70's Show", PJ laughing every time I did! Even though a part of me enjoyed the bonus snuggle time with my best Boy-Boy, I knew we'd both pay for it!

So, after a l-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-n-g night and a play date this morning, I figured that PJ would be wiped out by nap time.

Yeah. You guessed it. I figured wrong. He didn't take a nap today! What the hell? He bounced around his crib until I finally faced defeat and got him! At one point, he had thrown all of his things (paci, tag blankey, cookie monster doll) out of his crib. When I finally took them away, leaving him with nothing to chuck over the crib rail, he took his socks off and chucked those.

Smart ass.

Thankfully, he's now sound asleep after dinner at our wonderful friends house! Since we both have working-at-night husbands right now, we hung out to keep each other company and kill the time! The kids had a blast and it would seem that PJ ran out a lot of his energy! He's been asleep for three hours now, which is already a vast improvement over the last two nights!

And now that the Flyers game is over? I'm off to bed, too!

Goodnight, loves!

Monday, February 14, 2011

"Who needs sleep?"

In a world, where babies should be sleeping, things were awry.
Where there should have been quiet, the noise of raspberries shattered the silence.
An innocent mother investigates, and what she saw will astound you.

This is...

NAPTIME FAIL

video

Hopefully, this feature will not be coming to a bedroom near you, and will only have a short run in ours!!

Even if he is friggin' cute! ;-)

Sunday, February 13, 2011

"Just a little bit..."

just a few things....

We took PJ to a Valentine's Day Lunch with Elmo at Sesame Place on Saturday! It was sooo much fun and nicely done! PJ was a little overwhelmed from seeing all of his TV buddies in person! He didn't cry, but just kind of stared like "Whoa...". I got lots of shots with the characters that I will share later, but for now, my favorite- the look on PJ's face when he saw Ernie coming towards him:

Pretty much made my heart melt!

My sister Marla is featured of the website for The Children's Hospital of Philadelphia as part of Congenital Heart Defect Awareness Week 2011! She was born with a heart defect called tetralogy of fallot and has been a patient at CHOP all of her life. Now, she's a patient and and employee, since she's been a nurse there for nearly 6 years! Next month, she will take a new position in the Cardiac ICU, where she spent so much time as a child. It's an amazing journey and I don't think there's any way I could have been more blessed to be her sibling. Check it out here and maybe even share her story!

PJ is totally walking now!! He kind of looks like when Vincent D'Onofrio takes over that guys body in Men In Black, but it's still super cute and makes me laugh!!

I am so, so thankful for all of the amazing friends I have, who come with us to see Elmo, who invite us over for dinner so we can miss our husbands while they are at work, meet me for coffee, chat with me on Twitter, and love me even when I'm whiny/boring/smelly/generally unloveable!

I love my husband for loving me despite all of that, too!

And now, dear friends, it's time to watch the last little bit of the Grammy's and then cuddle up with my hubs before he does a stretch of three shifts in a row and I don't see him for days! Hope you all had a great weekend!!!

Goodnight!

Thursday, February 10, 2011

"Doubting if there's a woman in there somewhere..."


It’s Week 6 of the weekly Breastfeeding Blog Hop.

Link up to connect with other breastfeeding-friendly bloggers!

If you’re new to blog hops, please check out this post




Jen (http://www.twitter.com/lifewithlevi) is an exclusive pumping mom who works outside the home. Her son Levi is almost 6 months old.

Co-Hosts: @playersnamed and @mmumma


Erin (http://www.twitter.com/playersnamed) is a mom to three beautiful boys – Wyatt, Lincoln, and Judah The Tank. She blogs at TheSlackerMom.com

Marah (@mmumma) is a stay at home mom to her son Kolt. They have been breastfeeding for 14 months and still going strong. She blogs at Diary Of A Devil Dog Wife.

This Week’s Guest Host: @ABCGP

Wendy @ABCGP) is the proud (and tired!) mommy of a 15-month-old little boy and the founder of ABCs and Garden Peas, a natural parenting blog that focuses on food, family and eco-friendly endeavors. We just reached 15 months of nursing, and our one year anniversary of pumping at work! Next goals: 18 months, and TTC!

Here are the guidelines for this blog hop:


1.Follow the 3 blog hosts for the week (spots #1-3). Spot #3 features a blogger randomly selected from the previous week’s blog hop.

2.Link up your breastfeeding-friendly blog so others can find it. If you have posted about breastfeeding (and/or pumping) in the past or plan to post about breastfeeding, that’s you!

3.Check out some of the other blogs from the Linky. Be sure to leave a comment on each blog that you found them through the Breastfeeding Blog Hop so they can follow you back!

4. Repost the linky (link for the code is in the lower right-hand corner of the linky below) on your blog to help promote the blog hop. Be sure to add some info about YOU so others have a place to say “Hi” & let you know they’re following.

5. Grab the button below if you’d like and display it in your linky post or your sidebar.

6. This blog hop will be active from Thursday, 02/10 – Sunday, 02/13.


7.Be sure to include these guidelines when you add the Blog Hop Linky Code to your blog.

About Me (A Breezy Life...): Howdy! I'm Brie! I'm the wife of a hot firefighter hubby (who is also a nurse!) and the mama to the funniest, sweetest baby boy in the world! Peter Joseph is 14 months old and feels that his own, personal obstacle to breastfeeding is trying to watch Play With Me, Sesame with a mouthful of nipple. Or so he says. Thanks for stopping by!!



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Breastfeeding has been, for the most part, a peaceful adventure for me. Once I got past the first week, when I was in that whole "Holy CHRIST, am I using these things right?" phase, my son and I took to nursing with ease, and I am thankful for that in a million and one ways.

Still, even having a relatively uneventful breastfeeding history doesn't mean it's been a perfect road. I think just about every mama has some little hiccup in their nursing routine, whether it be sore nipples, supply problems, latching issues, teeth (baby's, not mama's!) or in my case, finding a comfortable, durable nursing bra that doesn't cost nine jillion freaking dollars!

I found that the best way to get past an obstacle was to get help. Trying to fake your way through a breastfeeding issue won't work and will just leave you with sore/full/empty hooters and a hungry/frustrated/bitey baby. And that's no fun. I haunted Barnes and Noble for books on nursing- I got some of the best tips from a book I didn't even think would apply to me, since it was written by working mama's for whom pumping played a huge part. I asked my friends who nursed, participated in chats, and made some rockin' Twitter friends! I even cried to my husband during a few frustrating times, and although he, being 1. a man and 2. boobless, didn't always understand my angst, he listened. Sometimes, that alone made all the difference.

Here's the thing- even for the milkiest of milky mamas, there will be those moments when it's Just. Not. Going. Right. And it can make you feel like shit. Seriously. But, don't give up, don't beat yourself up, and know that there are other nursing mamas who understand and could even give you some pointers!

Even I finally found some good bras at the outlets stores! If there's hope for me, there's hope for anybody!

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

"I wanna walk like you...

Note: This post was supposed to go up last night, but just as I was about to hit "Publish" my poor, teething, cranky, emotional son Completely. Lost. His. Mind. By the time my sweet boy was settled back in his bed, I had lost mine! Not that I had anything really important to say, but still. Here you go.

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Okay, I need to get something out of my system.

That McDonald's commercial? For the coffee? Where that couple rhythmically bangs on the table while sipping their McCafe?

I. Want. To. Slap. The. Shit. Out. Of. Them.

Moving on.

So, I have been super cranky, which is insane because things are pretty good! It's mainly hormonal and not at all environmental, so in a few days when everything is back to status quo, so to speak, I will be over myself.  I know. Ew, right?

There have been many doings about our little household! Pete is on a shorter stretch of time off in his work cycle, so he's been home and we have been able to do family things. By family things, it's mainly been watching PJ walking around!

Yup! He's walking! It took a while, but he started yesterday out of nowhere and hasn't stopped since! For now it's still hilarious and wonderful but I'm sure that by the end of the week, my house will be destroyed! ;-)

Tomorrow is Pete's last full day off, so we have big plans to take PJ to the Discovery Museum to see him really try his new legs out! In the meantime, it's late, it's cold, and it's windy outside and I am pretty sure that the only place I should be right now is in bed!

Goodnight!

Thursday, February 3, 2011

"My lovely lady lumps..."

It’s Week 5 of the weekly Breastfeeding Blog Hop.

Link up to connect with other breastfeeding-friendly bloggers!

If you’re new to blog hops, please check out this post





Co-Hosts: @playersnamed and @mmumma

This Week’s Guest Host: @briemarisa1977
(That's me!)

Here are the guidelines for this blog hop:

1.Follow the 3 blog hosts for the week (spots #1-3). Spot #3 features a blogger randomly selected from the previous week’s blog hop.

2.Link up your breastfeeding-friendly blog so others can find it. If you have posted about breastfeeding (and/or pumping) in the past or plan to post about breastfeeding, that’s you!

3.Check out some of the other blogs from the Linky. Be sure to leave a comment on each blog that you found them through the Breastfeeding Blog Hop so they can follow you back!

4.Repost the linky (link for the code is in the lower right-hand corner of the linky below) on your blog to help promote the blog hop. Be sure to add some info about YOU so others have a place to say “Hi” & let you know they’re following.

5.Grab the button below if you’d like and display it in your linky post or your sidebar.

6.This blog hop will be active from Thursday, 01/27 – Sunday, 01/30.

7.Be sure to include these guidelines when you add the Blog Hop Linky Code to your blog.

About Me (A Breezy Life...): Howdy! I'm Brie! I'm the wife of a hot firefighter hubby (who is also a nurse!) and the mama to the funniest, sweetest baby boy in the world! Peter Joseph is 14 months old and has been nursed at the mall, Barnes and Noble, Chick-fil-A, and at Passover Seder (mazel tov!). I am VERY excited to co-host the BFBH with Jen, even if she does kick my ass at Words With Friends! I'm really happy to meet YOU! Stop and say hello!

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Please also visit THIS post- originally linked on this weeks BFBH- on "Things The Lactation Consultant Should Have Told Me"!

Nursing in public was not something that I had any qualms about. I grew up a theater brat , dropping trou backstage for costume  changes at the drop of a hat, and have little to zero modesty. So one would figure that a little boob reveal-age would be nothing, and really? It wasn't. For me, anyway.

For others? Holy moly! You'd have thought it was twirling around a stripper pole instead of twirling my Bebe au Lait around my neck to cover my son like a circus tent while he nursed!

I think that for people who are uncomfortable with breastfeeding, there are two things going on. One, there are people who, when they see a breast, are going to go "OMIGOD! BOOBIES!" no matter what function they are being utilized for. Those sexy little lady lumps can cause quite a stir sometimes, particularly when they are seen only as sexy lady lumps and not for what truly is their function as organs on a human female.

The other roadblock can simply be an unfamiliarity with breastfeeding. Some families are not nursing families, and breastfeeding can be uncomfortable to see and speak of. My father-in-law, who is a sweet, wonderful man, really did not know what to do when I needed to nurse my son in his presence! One time, on a visit to their house (I actually think it was PJ's first Christmas, so he was all of a month old!) I was nursing in a quiet area of the house, swathed in my nursing cover, and my father-in-law came by and turned off the lights "to make you more comfortable".

Um. Ooooooookay.

I truly know that he had the best of intentions and it does not upset me that nursing makes him uncomfortable. He is a man (check 1!) who is the parent of children who were not nursed (check 2!) and was raised in a very modest, religious family (check 3!). He loves me, adores my son, and was well pleased to see how well PJ thrived as an exclusively breastfed child. He was glad my son was eating something, he just...you know. Didn't want to think about my boobs.

So, therein lies the problem. Boobs are more then just sexy, but people tend to view them as purely ornamental instead of functional. How can we, as women and breastfeeding advocates, change this attitude?

This Breastfeeding Blog Hop is a great start- Mama's banding together to write about the virtues of breastfeeding. I always say that it's not the right choice for everyone, so the idea is not to look down on mothers that make a different choice but to change the view point for people that do, so it's okay to nurse your child in public and have people see the amazing function of a mother's body and not just...well...

Not just boobies.