Thursday, October 30, 2008

"I wait in the same spot, brain like a parking lot..."

Well, I never thought I'd live to see the day, but...

Congrats to our own Philadelphia Phillie's- 2008 World Series Champions!!

Now, unlike my very lucky husband, I did not get to see the game live. But I did get to have champagne poured on me at Connie's Mac's, so it's almost the same (and for the record, it figures- I NEVER manage to get out, but the one night I do, and decide to look cute, I get champagne all over my cute new sweater! But, it was for a good cause!)! And no matter where I was, it was an exciting week, wasn't it? You may not know this, but when I was in 3rd grade, I was obsessed with baseball and was convinced I was going to be the first female baseball player. Now, the only bases I run between are...well, nevermind all that. Either way, my birthplace has been waiting a very long time for a championship, and a parade, and a real, fun reason to celebrate! Hopefully, this will somehow turn things for the city around- who would want to let such a positive vibe go to waste?

Today is also Halloween, so a happy one to you! The streets of Oaklyn were full of little Trick-or-Treaters gleefully running from house to house! The ever-famous BFF's- Ellie, Sarah, Anna, Riley and Emi- had a fab time together and scored tons of candy!

One thing I noticed this year- there seemed to be two options in young girls costuming, princess or prosti-tot. Seriously. The costumes were insanely skimpy and...well...slutty. I was on slutty costume alert the whole time we were out Trick-or-Treating and saw WAAAAAAY more tween asscheek then I needed to see. Blercgh. All I know is, if I tried to walk out of the door like that, my mother would have dragged me back in before I felt the breeze of the screen door close.

Slutty costumes aside, my little Bride and Renaissance Girl had an awesome time and already are talking about next Halloween! I love seeing the friendship the girls have formed, it makes me so happy! And despite the bittersweet feel of this year's festivities- yes, the Phillie's are World Series Champs, we had a gorgeous fall day and the girls had a blast, but we didn't have Greg- it was hard to feel too sad when I saw Sarah triumphantly run towards her mom with a mini box of Jr. Mints (her fave!) clutched in her hand! Sometimes, it's the little things!

And now, it's off to bed for me!

Thursday, October 23, 2008

"The bombs bursting in air..."

Well, we have one Phillie's win in the bag! How exciting to be in the World Series! I am hoping for a win,in particular for my husband and father-in-law, both die-hard Phillie's fans! I am not as into baseball as they are- I am more interested in the Philly Phanatic myself (he's hot!)!

One thing I need to mention though- Did anyone else feel the urge to move- to Canada, France, Iraq, anywhere!!- when they heard the Backstreet Boys rendition of our National Anthem? Good GOD, it was horrible!! It started out nice- they do have nice voices. But then, after "Oh say, can you see...." it took a disastrous turn. When people are allowed to sing The Star Spangled Banner this badly, the terrorists win, folks. There is only one Francis Scott FRICKIN' Key, people. Let's sing it the way God intended.

Try not to dry heave as you witness this disaster:

Now, Q-Tip all of that mess out of your ears and enjoy the patriotic stylings of a pre-crack Whitney Houston, singing one of my all time favorite renditions of the Star Spangled Banner:

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

"Hold on, hold on to yourself, for this is gonna hurt like hell..."

I am still feeling so scattered and random, so this entry may not make so much sense, but whatever! :-P It's not like I'm Stephen King here! Although a few of my thoughts today are a little scary...

How horrifying is this? As we all know, the weather has been much cooler, and in the mornings it's downright cold! On my way out the door this morning, I grabbed one of Pete's hoodie sweatshirts to throw on over my super-stylish pink sweatshirt! If Stacy and Clinton saw me, they would most likely skip the makeover and shoot me in the head to put me out of my misery.

Anyway, fast forward a bit to the bus stop, waiting for Ellie's bus to come. Despite my nine layers of sweatshirt and the coffee I was clutching, I was still cold, so I put the hood up on Pete's hoodie. my ears aren't cold anymore! Ellie's bus comes, we get her loaded on and walk to my car to get Anna off to school. I catch a glimpse of myself in my car window....and realize I look like the girl in the mirror in the Vagisil commercial!!! I am dressed like vaginal itch!!! Okay, seriously, I almost cried! Due to this horrifying experience, I will be going shopping for some cute outerwear and sweaters STAT!

But, it gets worse. I was looking for a picture of the lady in the gray hoodie from the commercial, and found this. Oh. My. God. If you are faint of heart, I beg you, don't click on that link!

Aside from that fashion disaster, everything else has been okay. It feels so strange to be returning to a routine after everything that has happened. I keep being startled by the fact that life does, indeed, go on. One thing my Marla and I (and anyone else who wants to join us) plan on doing is the Philadelphia Race for Hope to raise money for brain tumor research and patient services. Now that I have seen myself how devastating a brain tumor can be, I don't want this to happen to anybody else. If yo would like to make a donation in Greg's honor, you can visit my walk page by clicking here!

Shelly and Greg's family and friends are setting up a few benefits to raise money for Greg's daughters and to cover leftover medical expenses. If you would like to help by attending one of these events, donating an item for the Chinese Auction, or by simply making a donation to the family, just Email Me.

Thursday, October 16, 2008

"I've heard it said that people come into our lives for a reason..."

A little randomness:

1. I am prone to random thoughts this week; I think my brain is still set on "Scramble". Yesterday, I took Anna to her ballet class a full 30 minutes early- and swore the whole time were were leaving that we were running late! Those of you who know me- and have seen my planner- know that I usually am highly organized when it comes to schedules. So, that little slip up annoyed me more then it would annoy most people, I am sure. I wanted to go across the street to Barnes and Noble to kill time until her class started, but Anna vetoed that idea. Instead, she was content to color a picture while she waited for class to start. In retrospect, she most likely saved me about 50 dollars. :-P

2. Our apartment is slowly starting to look less like a bomb shelter and more like a normal living space. It took me five hours and two washers and dryers going at once to catch up on all of the laundry- and it's only Pete and I! It looked like Jon and Kate + 8 had come in and worn all of our clothes.

3. Lately, if it doesn't move, I'll eat it. There's no way that this is a good trend.

4. I didn't watch the debate, and now I have no clue who Joe the Plumber is.

5. I am so happy that tomorrow is Friday that I can hardly stand it!

6. So, I have been on this whole "I-like-to-write-poetry" kick lately (the link to all of that fun is over there on the right somewhere). I have no idea where all of this rhyming angst came from...or, sometimes non-rhyming angst. Whatever. But, it's an outlet and you don't HAVE to read it (in fact, I'd recommend you don't if you enjoy keeping your dinner down). Usually, the extent of my creative writing consists of "There once was a man from Nantucket- type poems that I write about Pete, so at least this can be called progress!

7. I miss Shelly and the girls. I wish they were home. But then, I wish all of this had never happened. I wonder when we won't be sad anymore.

8. I can't imagine that I will be able to sit and blog anything but a bunch of jumbled thoughts for a long, long time.

Friday, October 10, 2008

"But if he's all you say, would he fly from heaven to this world again..."

When I sit down to journal (the word "blog" annoys me for some reason) I usually have no trouble making the words flow from my brain to the keyboard. And I think the words are there now, but it's just so clogged up in my head that there is no flow. Or, maybe my heart is just weighing down my fingers.

It's been one week today since we lost my brother-in-law Greg. Every night, I have sat down at my keyboard, waiting for all of the feelings and memories and grief to come pouring out in so many letters and words. Why would there be nothing to say when I just lost such a good friend, when three little girls lost their father, when my amazing sister-in-law lost her husband?

Here's what I can say:

Greg had alot of people who loved him and will miss him. He was quiet and laid back, but dependable in the best of ways. He ADORED his daughters, and his not being here to be in the endless pictures Shelly always takes, or to help blow their hair dry at night is an absolute tragedy, even though I know he will always be with them. He was the Yin to Shelly's Yang, the calming presence to her speediness, and looked out for her in such a touching way. Greg really, REALLY loved his job and leaves an almost impossible-to-fill hole in his absence. He was also really GOOD at his job. He could have a twisted sense of humor, especially where his illness was concerned. He always, from the beginning, made me feel like he was rooting for Pete and I to work. His being a part of our wedding day will always be a part of my heart. He was a good friend, a great brother-in-law, a fantastic husband, and an amazing father.

Here's what I learned this week:

My sisters are made of steel, and nobody has ever shown more strength then my sister Shelly has shown through this whole ordeal. She took care of Greg with such tenderness and care, learning every single thing about his illness and needs. I learned that grief can hit you so hard sometimes, and make you feel like nothing in the world will ever be right again. I learned that the way children see the world is so amazing, and having them here is such a gift. I learned that if you are looking for movie quotes to use for a funeral, Monty Python quotes are entirely inappropriate! I learned that sometimes, even in times of need, some people rise to the occasion in ways you could never dream, and some people also fail in ways you could never dream. Some people, it turns out, really are dementors, and you had better have your patronus ready. I learned that sometimes, you don't get the miracles you wanted, and I learned that despite that, funny things will still make you laugh, a gorgeous fall day is still a treat, and a cake from Sweet Eats can serve as your panacea.

Here's what I pray for:

For God to watch over us all and help us through this, even though we will never understand it. To keep His hand over my amazing sisters, especially Shelly, and watch over Greg and Shelly's daughters. To welcome Greg into His arms, and to make sure He's holding all of our hands at the same time.

And here's the last thing I have to say tonight:

Today is Sunday, and I have cried every day since we lost Greg last Sunday. Maybe tomorrow, a memory of him will make me smile, instead of smile and cry. Today I miss him, but tomorrow, I might see a part of him in one of those beautiful daughters of his. Today, I feel like I will be sad forever, but maybe soon, it'll start to heal. Today I am so thankful for everything I have, for everyone who I love and for everyone who, for whatever reason, loves me back. And I know I will feel the exact same way about that tomorrow.

Bye Greg, thank you for everything. We love you, bud...

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

"Time will go, both of us know, never be a day without you..."

Of Oaklyn and formerly of Tabernacle, on October 5, 2008, age 36.
Husband of Shelly Trefz (nee Latini). Adoring Dad of Sarah,Riley & Emilia, son of Berry & Lou Trefz of Mystic Island, son-in law of Carl & Gerri Latini of Oaklyn. Brother of Lou (Teri) Trefz, Jr. of Lumberton and Chris (Wendee) Trefz of Shamong, brother-in law of Carl (Ann Marie) Latini of Oaklyn and Pete (Brie) Latini of Collingswood, additionally survived by many aunts, uncles, nieces and nephews.
Greg grew up in Tabernacle & lived in Oaklyn the last 7 years. A member of the Shawnee High School Classof '90, Greg received a Degree in Social Sciences from the Univ. of Southern Colorado. Mr. Trefz was a Certified School Social Worker employed at Archway in Atco the last 11 years, and presently serving as the Dean of Students.
Viewing Wednesday 7:00 to 9:00 PM in BLAKE-DOYLE FUNERAL HOME, 226 Collings Ave., Collingswood.Funeral Thursday 9:30 AM at the FUNERAL HOME, SERVICES at 1100 AM.
The family respectfully suggests memorial contributions to Trefz Children Education Fund, c/o 111 Woodlynne Terrace, Oaklyn, NJ 08107.

Saturday, October 4, 2008

"Goodnight, my angel, time to close your eyes..."

Here I am sitting in my kitchen during the first few minutes of Saturday, waiting for my husband to come home from work.

I was actually able to enjoy a really nice evening tonight- a good cap to what was kind of a weird week. I can't put my finger on what made it weird exactly. In fact, there were quite a number of highlights, including two playdates with my friend Michelle and her girls (one planned, one lucky coincidence!), a meeting at my other job that gave me the chance to catch up with work friends, lunch with one sister in law and breakfast with the other, and a nice, relaxing TV night with Pete! But, this week I had a few very early mornings at work and in general just felt kind of...blegh.

Tonight I spent a nice night with my friend Tiffany, just catching up, since we don't see each other as much as we used to. And now here I am, in my kitchen with Gordie purring on my lap as I try to type! of my favorite sounds...the sound of Pete's car pulling into the driveway!